I had to detach myself from a client who was also a friend in order to preserve her mental health and mine. Through the course of almost a year she had been coming to me to spy upon an ex-boyfriend who she refused to let go of… even though he had obviously moved on. In her mind he was the love of her life. Through the course of time that we knew each other I continuously encouraged her to move on because I could not see him ever wanting reconciliation. She on the other hand, had stopped her life in order to find a way to somehow get him back or at least see him reap the benefits of his karma for dumping her. What unfolded through the course of our relationship was a sad commentary on the emotional education of young women in America.
First of all, when I was growing up I was taught never to want a man who did not want me. Seems obvious to many women who have been raised the same way, but this young woman had never heard of that basic rule of dating. Go figure. In the real world many men go from “relationship” to “relationship” seeking sexual gratification until they get bored or fed up. I thought we all knew this. She on the other hand refused to believe it. Because they had several romantic moments in which she had felt genuinely connected she felt that this relationship was the be all and end all. He on the other hand felt no real remorse for ending the relationship even though she threatened suicide. For me this relationship mirrored something I had experienced early on in high school, even though this scenario was being played out between 2 people in their 30’s. A year later she still wanted him desperately and he… well he was nowhere to be found. He had used her for over a year and moved on.
The next thing that annoyed me was that this woman genuinely felt that I was being cruel by telling her what I saw with my abilities even though I was gentle in delivering the information. Because I was not telling her what she wanted to hear, she would argue with me about my predictions. Bottom line: He never came back. It certainly wasn’t my fault. Ultimately, I had to admit that it was hers. And admittedly, towards the end of our relationship I had to be blunt for her own sake. When she confessed to me that she still had thoughts of suicide my advice was to get help immediately. At that point I let her go, so to speak.
I knew she was bluffing for attention and sympathy… on the surface… but underneath it all I could feel a desperate young woman unable to validate her own existence without the presence of a man… any man. And that is beyond what I psychic can do for anyone. I cannot give someone self-esteem and self-worth, I can only encourage it, but I cannot wave my magic wand and bestow it as a gift. Furthermore, I refused to be held liable for any botched suicide attempts this woman had in mind to garner sympathy. On no, I advised her to seek a psychiatrist, counselor, anything… except me.
Now there are people out there with the ability to “magickally” make her ex-boyfriend return to her, but those types of spells do not involve love but control. In my experience the karmic debt incurred by forcing someone to do something that is not of their own free will is way too high. I refuse to do it. However, I am sure she could find someone who was willing to oblige… for a price. But what then? It would not be love, would it? And the nurturing and preservation of love in its purest form is what I believe is the highest calling.
As an “easy out” I told her that when she could finally reconcile herself to moving on and living a more productive, positive life then and only then could we have something to talk about. A week later she messaged me that she had miraculously “gotten over” him. I didn’t buy it. I saw it as an attempt to weasel her way back into my good graces so she could argue with me about the outcome of my predictions. How do I know this? I’m a psychic.
So here are some basic rules of the etiquette between psychics and clients.
1. Do not “befriend” a psychic thinking that by making him or her a friend that you can get free insights into your love life.
2. If you don’t agree with a psychic, don’t argue. Find another psychic.
3. If you threaten suicide, expect to be referred to a mental health professional immediately. That is the appropriate response. If you want to talk about it, call a suicide prevention hotline.
4. If you want to purchase a spell go to someone who is selling that service.
5. Never assume that you can manipulate a psychic with the same drama and histrionics that you use to fool yourself and annoy the public at large. A good psychic will know that you are playing games.